7. Commit To Working On Issues As They Come
You don’t need to be on the verge of a breakup to see a couple’s counselor. Morrison says it’s not a bad idea to make appointments to see a counselor twice a year for maintenance purposes.
If you’re going through challenges, schedule in something sooner. “Don’t wait to see a therapist if you’re having difficulty working out issues,” Morrison says. “The longer you wait, the more difficult to repair the relationship.”
If you don’t want to go to a therapist, make a commitment to repair your relationship as issues arise. “If you’ve done something or said something that harms the other, make sure to repair quickly by being accountable for your actions,” Morrison says. Saying sorry is a start, but it’s even more important to put in the work to make change.
8. Say Nice Things About Your Partner To Others
Criticism doesn’t cause positive behavior changes, it causes resentment, Dr. Kathy Nickerson, licensed psychologist and relationship expert, tells Bustle.
Make it a point to start the year by focusing on your partner’s positive qualities and what you appreciate about them. And don’t keep it all to yourself. Morrison says it’s important to express genuine pride in your relationship with other people. It may even change the way you look at your partner.
9. Talk About Your Individual Hopes & Dreams
What do you want to accomplish for yourself in 2020? It’s not only important to talk about your goals as a couple, it’s also important to talk about your individual goals, dreams, and ideas. According to Dr. Nickerson, this can add some new life into your relationship.
See if there are any shared dreams that you can work on together like running a marathon or starting your own business. “Supporting other’s dreams can really strengthen your emotional connection,” Dr. Nickerson says.