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How To Give Your Relationship A Fresh Start In 2020

10. Break Personal Habits That Aren’t Serving You

Reflect on your habits and behaviors to see if there’s anything that’s harmful to your relationship. “The new year is a great time to do a personal inventory,” Dr. Nickerson says.

Maybe you’re a little too emotionally reactive when you hear something you don’t like, or maybe you tend to get aggressive during fights. Once you pinpoint the specific ways that you could improve, keep it in mind, and make a point to work on it. You can even let your partner know that you’re taking responsibility and looking to change.

11. Find Something Fun To Do Together

Creating a fresh start isn’t only about working on issues or breaking habits — it can be fun, too. “If your relationship feels a little blah, try to curate more fun moments for the two of you,” Dr. Nickerson says.

Play games, flirt with each other, go on an adventure, or try something new to decrease stress. Doing something at the beginning of the year that makes you laugh and smile will set a good tone for the year ahead.

12. Talk About Sex

Talking about sex in the beginning of the new year will ensure you're both on the same page about your sex life.

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Use the new year to check in with your partner about how they’re feeling about your sex life. “Sexual communication has always been a strong predictor of sexual relationship quality,” Dr. Nicole Prause, Ph.D, founder of Liberos, a sexual biotechnology company, tells Bustle.

According to Prause, many people will hold off on having a sex talk because they don’t want to be judged or brushed off. But if you do it at the beginning of the year as part of your discussion on the goals you want to accomplish, you can have a productive conversation about it.

13. Come Up With New Relationship Rituals For 2020

Relationship rituals are small intentional things that you do each day to keep your connection alive, like having breakfast together every morning or giving each other a kiss before you leave for work. As Amy Hartle, relationship and marriage expert, tells Bustle, “These little gestures are small, but they add up to a lifetime of love.”

If you already have your routine all set, find little ways to shake it up a bit. Instead of texting each other during lunch breaks, try Facetiming during lunch every Wednesday. You can even create new traditions for holidays, birthdays, and long weekends that bond you and will give you something to look forward to, Margaux Cassuto, relationship expert and matchmaker, tells Bustle.

While you can refresh your relationship at any point in time, New Year’s often feels like the perfect starting point to set intentions and make exciting changes.

Experts

Belah Rose, intimacy and marriage coach

Jenny Block, sex and relationship expert

Lana Otoya, dating coach and founder of Millennialships.com

Julie Lauren, author of Oops!: An Insider’s Guide to Dating, Sex, and Relationships in Your 20s

Barbara Morrison, psychotherapist and author of Fully Half Committed

Dr. Kathy Nickerson, licensed psychologist and relationship expert

Dr. Nicole Prause, Ph.D. of Liberos

Sarah Nadler, minister and relationship coach

Amy Hartle, relationship and marriage expert

Margaux Cassuto, relationship expert and matchmaker

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